Recently I've thought a lot on the why of having children and by extension the why of parenting. The viewpoint expressed by Helen Andelin in Fascinating Womanhood deals more with the day-to-day than an overall philosophy:
"The feminine woman", writes Andelin, "is moved by an instinctive concern for [her children's] physical welfare, she sees that they are properly fed, bathed, and free of danger. She would never allow them to go hungry, cold, or unprotected, if within her power to prevent it. She takes pride in their appearance by keeping them clean, well-groomed, and attractively dressed. She is gentle, loving, and understanding. She teaches them how to be happy, and gives them praise and encouragement." [Ch. 17 "The Domestic Goddess", pp. 258-259][image "Focusing on the Important Things in Life" by Carlo Nicora]
As mentioned above part of my own search for a parenting philosophy has been spent in reading. Lots of reading; perhaps parenting used to not come with a manual but in my library system there are over 500 books on the subject. One of these, Dr. Spock's Baby and Child Care, has this to say on parenting philosophies:
In many ways we have lost our faith in the meaning of life and our confidence to understand our world and our society. My point here is that you are raising your children in the context of very confusing and rapidly changing times. Your goals and aspirations for your child are going to be greatly influenced by these times and the prevailing ideals and beliefs. A central core of values and beliefs - ones that remain unshaken by tumultuous social changes - will serve as your compass as you chart a course for your family. I hope that, at least once in a while, after yet another hectic day, you will sit back and reflect on where you are going and whether your day-to-day interactions with your children reflect your true values and dreams for their future. [8th ed., pp. 6]
- I am grateful for the Thanksgiving holiday.
- I am grateful for clean water.
- I am grateful for the birthday well wishes of friends and family.
- I am grateful for puff pastry.
- I am grateful for kind & knowledgeable doctors.