a hard one to swallow

If you are going to make headway at becoming a fascinating woman you'll need to accept that men and women are inherently different. This isn't a disparage on either sex, it is a fact. Because every person has masculine and feminine attributes within themselves we've led ourselves to believe that we are the same. We are not. Even very effeminate men are different than butch women. Our brains are even shaped differently. This is not to say that all women are going to love lace and all men enjoy wielding a hammer, what it means is that you are different than your husband, boyfriend, gay best friend, or male co-worker on a fundamental level. Your body is shaped differently. Your thought patterns are different. The way you relate to emotions is different.

Realizing this was difficult for me. I most certainly did not want to be like most women I knew, particularly most married women I knew growing up. I thought that being a woman meant hating yourself, hating your children and hating your husband. By example I was taught that men are stupid and lazy and prone to extreme selfishness. I also learned that women are champion whiners. Then I met Laurea. I babysat her children and found her singularly amazing. Not only did she not complain about her husband she openly praised him. She loved being a mother, she enjoyed talking well about her children. She was happy. What was even more astonishing was that she was intelligent and competent, qualities I had grown up thinking could not possibly be linked with a housewife and homemaker.

It's gutsy to embrace your femininity. To help here are some feminine adjectives, begin thinking of yourself in feminine terms and you'll find yourself feeling and acting more feminine, and (here's the real shocker) being happier.

tender-hearted
spontaneous
sweet-tempered
sassy
charming
gentle
tender
kind
plucky
delicate
sensitive
radiant
darling
gracious
dignified
spiritual
refined
pure
sweet
alluring
attractive
dainty
cute
elegant
irresistible
rapturous
lovely
pleasant
desirable
delightful
precious
sexy
bewitching
cheerful
swell
enchanting
adorable
spirited
gutsy
curvy
soft
daring
adept
clever
dear
chic
pretty
loving